renata in a shopping cart smiling at the camera while her dad is pushing the shopping cart

Being Childfree

“Paula, did you hear what your daughter just said!?” My grandmother yelled across the kitchen to my mother in a scandalized voice. “Yeah, she doesn’t want to have kids,” my mom responded, unfazed, “I’ve always known that. She can have dogs if she wants.” I still remember this conversation with my grandmother plain as day. I don’t remember what exactly brought it up, perhaps it … Continue reading Being Childfree

awkward feet

Renata’s Guide to Making Friends in Your Twenties

Making friends in your twenties while out in the “real world” is hard. And it’s even harder now that we’re all mostly stuck inside. Back in college, it was so easy. At my college, for the most part, students lived on campus (can anyone say captive audience?). You saw the same people at every event and eventually decided to be friends based on your common … Continue reading Renata’s Guide to Making Friends in Your Twenties

learning to say no

Part 1: Learning to Say “No”

This post is part 1 of a 2-part series I wrote about learning how to manage and communicate my expectations of myself. I hope you enjoy and find it relatable! I’m sure you all are aware of the facet of the current mental-health movement centered around saying “no” when you don’t feel like you’re mentally able to handle something. Saying “no” isn’t always easy. There’s … Continue reading Part 1: Learning to Say “No”